So, intentionally or not, Finn outing Santana in a crowded high school hallway was wrong. Yes, Santana bullied him. Yes, that was bad. Yes, she should probably be reprimanded for such actions. But, no, she doesn’t then deserve to be outed. Having someone take one of the most personal decisions you’ll make in your life away from you is not OK.
Simply being a bitch isn’t a rationale for forcing someone out. Even if Santana has in the past been somewhat indelicate about the subject of other’s sexuality, it doesn’t justify these actions. And even if Finn didn’t intend for the entire world to learn about Santana’s secret, it was never his secret to share.
I hate how divisive this is turning out to be. Certainly a lot of people have commented to me that they’re surprised at my attitude to Santana’s outing. And perhaps I’m the one who expressed herself badly, but I don’t think that Santana deserved to be outed.
I do think she brought it on herself.
Think about it. Would anyone have ever outed Brittany? Or, say, Mike Chang?
Santana is the queen of the gay joke. She told Rory to go kill himself (and I should have written about that at the time but it’s super triggery). She said she was going to apologise to Finn and then stood there torturing him with fat jokes until he snapped.
How would we all feel about Santana if Rory did, actually, try and kill himself?
We may all love watching Santana on our televisions (I know I do), but how many of us would want to know her in real life?
The fact is, in life, that being a miserable asshole has consequences. It doesn’t matter why you’re that way, but if you get your jollies making other people feel like shit, someday someone is going to come back at you. And it may not be what you deserve, but it will be all your own doing.
For instance, if I (especially routinely) drive a car that has no headlights in the middle of the night, do I deserve to die? Dishing out the death penalty for infractions like that is not ok. But if I did die because another driver didn’t see me, is it anyone else’s fault but my own? Sure, they have lights, they should have been driving slow enough to stop, etc but really, the bulk of the blame rests on me.
Santana does not deserve the outing she’s (apparently) getting. It’s tragic, because the consequences are all out of proportion for her. But it’s interesting, and dramatic and most of all, it’s pretty real.