Brief mention of spoilers for 4.07 herein.
Can anyone tell what that broach is that Emma is wearing? Is it a flamingo? Because it’s making me think of a stork. And what is in its beak?
Will seems to be saying he’s like Blaine. He can’t be alone. Emma is ignoring this. It’s hard to have watched the rest of the episode without thinking she really should give some thought to going with him. Will grownups be able to handle it better? Bearing in mind, of course, that Will was Emma’s first love and Emma is Will’s second. They don’t have a lot more experience to go on than the other couples, despite their ages.
Kurt and Blaine lived in each other’s pockets for a long time, and the distance is harder than anticipated.
When I was 17, my boyfriend went to university 1000 miles away from me. I remember this because The Proclaimers had their I’m Gonna Be single on the radio then and it often made me burst into tears, wishing he was the guy who’d walk 1000 miles (or fly, take the train, something) to be with me. We were no engame love story — just two kids from the same town with complementary neurologies and interest in working through his mother’s copy of The Joy of Sex like it was some kind of exceptionally pleasurable science experiment. He was also really good at helping me cope with other things.
So with him gone, it was awful. My whole world was the same, just minus him. He didn’t get a phone in his dorm room, and teenagers didn’t have cell phones back then. Neither of us was good at talking on the phone. He couldn’t tell me how he missed me (and I know now, he did) and I couldn’t tell him how I needed a lot of reassurance. He was busy. I became convinced he was fucking around. Someday, we’ll have beer and I’ll show you a photo of him and you can see just how likely it was he was getting laid like a rock star. We lasted 4 weeks.
When I told my mother I was gay, she told me “sex isn’t everything in a relationship.” Well, I’ve been married for 7 years now, and she’s right. But she’s wrong too, because she was trying to tell me that it was nothing. And it’s definitely not nothing. And depending on who you are, and what sex means to you, the lack of it can be catastrophic.
That is not the case for Kurt. That is, as we’re learning, the case for Blaine. And there are a million reasons this may be the case: he may need the reassurance/approval of it. He may have a compulsive streak. He may be chasing the feeling he gets when he’s with Kurt. Maybe nobody ever touches him anymore now that Kurt’s gone. (links to some excellent meta on Tumblr)
Hooking up is really easy for teenagers these days. I don’t remember a ton of it when I was a teen — making out usually meant you were then going out (however briefly) — there was an implied commitment. But talking to my friends’ teenagers, I know now that sex can very well not mean commitment even at young ages. And that’s boys and girls. Gay men have a whole culture built around hook ups, including an iPhone app disapproved of by Paris Hilton. Blaine, again, unlike Kurt, has a history of reaching out to the larger gay community (that’s how he met Jeremiah).
It’s not a huge stretch that he’d end up in someone else’s bed.
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And I agree with LettersFromTitan that it’s very possibly not just once. In fact, the spoilers from 4.07 would suggest more than one hook up in Blaine’s recent history. As people have noted, in the leaked script, the RANDOM GUY says he doesn’t look like his profile picture. It could be a joke, but Eli. C’s profile picture is of a lighthouse. Any port in a storm?
If sex to you means acceptance and reassurance and approval, and you’re not getting sex, then you’re not getting your dose of approval and acceptance and reassurance. And if your boyfriend is legitimately busy and distracted and trying so, so hard to make something of himself (and possibly using business to distract him until you arrive in just. two. weeks.) it’s easy to understand how you might be tempted more than the average bear.
How will they fix this? God knows. Especially with a first love, cheating is hard to get around. Because you’re used to (and have probably fetishised) the notion that neither of you have had anyone else. Will Kurt attempt to even the score? Will something catastrophic happen to put things in perspective and draw them together again? And will they ride out their time apart as friends, or not speaking? I’m kind of dying to know.
In my mind, Kurt not taking Blaine’s phone calls has a eerie foreshadowing to it, because of the association with David Karofsky, especially given that Blaine sang the song that narrated Karofsky’s suicide attempt. I don’t think they’re going to redo the suicide plotline – but they’re definitely wading into depression and self-harm territory with Blaine.
There’s also the inverse of Kurt’s “dalliance” happening here. Kurt, who was once isolated by Blaine’s attempt to learn how to be alone, is now forgetting to make Blaine feel special. He’s not even saying “I love you”. So the one upside here, is that given some time, Kurt should be able to understand this.
We have another lack of communication with Finchel. It’s not like Klaine’s — this is imposed by Finn for reasons unknown to other mammals. He felt that being a man meant making Rachel’s decisions for her. He felt that removing himself from the equation would make him a man.
And the gun named Rachel would only be less subtle if he shot himself in the foot.
And here we get one of the best scenes Glee has ever done. Lea Michele absolutely rocked the scene in the auditorium. And we learned that Rachel has grown up. Not because she says she has but because she knows now that she owns her freedom. She doesn’t need someone making her decisions and she knows as well that Finn is going to have to find his own way too.
Where do they go from here? I think things look good for Finchel. Rachel has single-handedly put an end to their most toxic dynamics and seems to be quite ready to let the chips fall as they may. Finn, at this point, is going to have to seek his dream — one assumes — at Hummel Tires and Lube. Or get over the idea that hot dog vendors are losers.
Interesting that this is the couple who appear to be not hurting each other — well, not in the way the others are. There’s no yelling or lying or hiding here. Santana knows what she needs, communicates it, and tries to make sure she’s giving Brittany the ability to get what she needs too. Brittany knows she’s right — she said as much to Blaine earlier in the episode. She cries, but she doesn’t argue.
This is a seriously refreshing change from most tv lesbian couples who seem to hate each other with far more passion than they ever have for fucking.
This is the first time I’ve really felt Brittana. They love each other, and they’re honest. Rule Brittana.
Jake and Kitty and Marley (Jarlitty)
Have I ever mentioned I’m obsessed with the end times? I took a course called The Apocalyptic Consciousness in university. I wrote a paper on end-times cults inspired by the appearance of comet Hale-Bopp, and another on Marian end-time cults.
I like Jake and Marley marginally more this episode. This is slow going. I feel like Sue — no idea how to pick on Marley, or like her, or anything.
How is it that Puck recalls his parents fighting about some tramp waitress when Jake’s mom was a real estate agent until recently?
Can we talk about the tiny, bow tied Asian screaming in agony about being left behind? Or both of them?