The words that stick in my mind from Saturday Night Glee-ver were never said.
“What would you do?” Wade/Unique asks Kurt and Mercedes.
We don’t hear their advice, but we find out later that their advice was to not wear the dress and heels, to not stand out, and not to be Unique.
That’s right — Kurt and Mercedes gave this advice. You know, those two who always keep their heads down, try to blend in, and believe it’s best to just be like everyone else, because it’s too risky to be yourself.
I mean, this is the reasoning they started to give Sue when she asked about the encounter. Basically that Unique wouldn’t fly in
Peoria Ohio. Some examples of other things that might not either: taking your gay best friend to your evangelical church; being a gay kid who won’t apologise; a black Maria in West Side Story; boys who sing girl songs and wear skirts, etc
For me, I have to land on Kurt’s own gender issues. A lifetime ago, I wrote that Kurt is not cisgender. Racheline at Letters From Titan then wrote a lot of really smart things, especially about wearing hats in church.
But as Biyuti has pointed out, Kurt has asserted his masculine identity once. (He’s also denied being gay and confessed to being in love with Rachel). (and I don’t mean to deny Kurt his own ability to self-identify — I just know that I alternately will claim membership with either gender depending on the situation, and maybe he does too).
And it’s not even that I’m going to insist that Kurt is genderqueer — but he does have gender issues. They may not be his own, even, but the result of years of being insulted by being called a girl, and being betrayed by his own gender, if he does identify as a man (as Unique says Kurt does). Why wouldn’t he be uncomfortable when an apparent boy comes to him, with a similar girl-voice and says he wants to be a girl? I’m surprised he didn’t actually freak like he did when Blaine was experimenting with Rachel.