Ok, ok, I’m blinking on this one. Mostly because all the talk is happening on Tumblr and I still find it hard to follow.
How we all missed this, I have no idea, but here it is. There was a clever post on Tumblr that started off this whole discussion here.
In both 3.05 and 3.03, Kurt is wearing a read hanky, left side.
For those of you unfamiliar with the hanky code, here’s a helpful definition from Wikipedia:
Handkerchief code or hanky code (also known as bandana code and flagging) is color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male casual-sexseekers or BDSM practitioners in the leather subculture in the United States, Canada and Europe, to indicate preferred fetishes, what kind of sex they are seeking, and whether they are a top/dominant or bottom/submissive. The hanky code was widely used in the 1970s by gay and bisexual men, and grew from there to include all genders and orientations.
There’s a meaning to each colour (and some patterns) and while there are universals, the codes can be localised so it can be different. Red/left side seems pretty universally “fisting” and “top”. Yeah, you read that right.
HeatherHermione pointed out the hanky in 3.05 (in the scene where Kurt suggests they go back to Blaine’s parentless home) and to aNervousTemperament pointed out the hanky in 3.03 (applauding after the Rachel/Mercedes Diva-off). That 3.03 pic could really use to be a gif but I just do not have the tools for this.
And Racheline (Letters from Titan) is asking all the right questions:
a) Kurt knows perfectly well what the hanky code is and thinks he can get away with stuff like that because no one else in Lima knows what the hanky code is.
b) Kurt knows what the hanky code is and so does Blaine. But they don’t talk about it, and Blaine thinks Kurt’s a little ridiculous and over the top, but it’s more information about what goes on in Kurt’s brain about sex than he’s ever had before, so it’s not like he’s going to bring it up and risk Kurt stopping.
c) Kurt, as ever, is wearing sexualized clothing without a clue. Remember the bondage harness?
d) Kurt, originally didn’t have a clue about the hanky code, and someone had to clue him in. Once clued in, he runs with it. Hey, who had to clue him in?
Personally, I’m of the opinion that Kurt may not know what he’s doing, but Chris Colfer, Darren Criss, Ryan Murphy and Lou Eyrich (costume designer) all do. And that means it’s hilarious. I would love to see Blaine trying to explain it to him.