What you’re saying with “he deserves to be chased,” however, is that it’s somehow less legitimate because he had to do the chasing, that Kurt’s not getting his fair share because he played the part of the pursuer.
Is this a sick gender role thing, wherein you think Kurt is the girl, and therefore must be the one sought after?
Do you just want to see his ego stroked?
Why does he “deserve” to be chased? What does that actually -mean?- That it’s not enough for him to get what he worked for, and he has to be on the receiving end of it from the get-go for it to count, and be worth his time?
To put it mildly, this is bullshit.
I love this; go read it. And I have complicated feelings about chasing/being chased and that’s even without worrying about gender roles, and it gets even more complicated there.
But yeah, I think the whole “Kurt deserves to be chased” thing is aspirational, where fandom is somewhat dominated by young female people who identify with Kurt and still do buy into so much of what Disney sells them about romance and love. I mean, what if Cinderella had pursued the prince, right?